Back In the Day...

April 10, 2009
Mary Margaret has a favorite phrase she uses when she is asking me questions about my time as a kid/teenager, "Back in the Day".

I'm going back...

The girls and I have had some serious discussions over the last two weeks. They have both been subjected to some really cruel remarks this week, by some girls that I thought were considered good friends of MM and Taylor. Back in the day I don't remember kids my age being just down right mean. I'm sure there was some name calling but not like the kids are doing today. I have been totally shocked by the things the girls have been talking about this week.

This is the first story that I got from Taylor (for 2 weeks the story has not changed, which tells me, Taylor is not fibbing)

She was telling a young lady about her bedroom, what color, about her bed, etc.
Her good friend interjected with this "You can't live with your mom because she's a Hoe and jumps from man to man". Yes, this was said by a CHILD which just blows my mind. Yes this was said by someone who has spent a lot of time with us on the weekends, been to the movies with us, Jonesboro, birthdays, etc. Why would she want to humiliate Taylor this way? Of course, Taylor told her sister about it, and her feeling were hurt too. No matter what your parents are doing, you love them and something said like that hurts. Mary Margaret and this young lady have been very close since about the 3rd grade. Since this was said the name calling has escalated and other girls have gotten involved, yes, I thought the other girls were their friends too. I have told my girls to turn the other cheek and stay away. I'm pretty sure they have, with the exception of Taylor telling a teacher that they were cussing in the bathroom. Over the past two weeks Mary Margaret has gone from mad, to "should I apologize?", to worried, to crying, and now just plain ol' tired of it all. The "should I apologize" to me was crazy, apologize for what? Taylor was mad, to worried this boy was going to kick her butt for the girls, to tired of the whole mess. I am tired of the mess too. I'm probably making this worse for them by talking about it, I'm sure these girls read my blog. We pray for them every morning, both the girls have said that they have forgiven these girls, but are not going to return to the friendship. Mary Margaret broke down one night and confessed all the things this good friend has been saying about me over the years, which makes me feel stupid for not seeing that this child couldn't stand me. I see it now.

As far as I know, they've only called Mary Margaret a F'n B**** and A-Hole, which she has heard herself.

Taylor hasn't fared so well. Last week she had STD's (which she didn't even know what that was) she's been called all kinds of lovely names, F'n B****, A-Hole, F'n Snitch, etc. Yesterday she was pregnant and to top it off, she sat at the back of the bus, like I told her too, with a young lady that is claiming to be bi-sexual.

I'm just as shocked as you all are. There are kids in the Jr. High who claim to be bi-sexual. Last week two girls were caught making out in the girls bathroom. That was a fun conversation...
MM: Two girls got caught making out in the girls bathroom today. They'll will probably get in school suspension.
ME: Why won't the boys get suspension.
MM: Kaye Kaye, there wasn't any boys, these girls are "dating"
ME: (cough cough) OH.
Then we had the the talk.

The kids today fling the word gay around today like its nothing. When I was in the 7th grade I remember being scared to death to say that word. I honestly don't remember saying it. Our society has accepted it and it seems normal to these kids today. I didn't come home from school wondering what a blow job was, I didn't get called pregnant, I never wondered what an STD was. We did have health class. Health was the only place I ever heard about those things. 7th graders were not allowed to have 20 year old boyfriends. I could go on for days. There is so much DRAMA in the schools.

The kids today cuss like nobody's business. I'm almost 100 percent sure that my girls don't cuss. I may be a fool but I don't think so. Same good friend of MM asked me one time to not tell MM what LMAO stands for because MM gets so upset when she cusses. I told her she shouldn't be cussing.

This is the world our kids are growing up in folks and it's a scary one. I'm proud to say we are Christians and have the grace of God on our side.

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I need to officially retired the blog nick name YARM14YOL. Over the last year Mary Margaret has really grown up. We do not fight as much, as a matter of fact over the last 6 months or so, there have been absolutely no shouting matches. God is definitely working over here at the Butler Diaries.